It’s kind of funny how big changes can seem so small when you think about them, then how large they loom when surrounding you. It sure would be handy to have a map guiding the way to the next “right spot”.
My wife and I sold our home, after having it on and off the market for a year and a half. The thoughts of, “Well, once our house sells, then we’ll find the house we want to buy,” “There’s no point in looking now,” or “We’ll be able to use our new-found freedom to figure out what we want to do next,” fall kind of flat. I guess they didn’t really fall flat, they kind of got pushed down . . . by a steam roller . . . screaming “YOU HAVE THREE WEEKS TO FIND A PLACE TO LIVE AND GET MOVED!”
All goals, most activities and the bulk of non-work time were sacrificed to packing, finding a place to rent, packing, touring places to rent, packing, moving, interviewing landlords, packing, being amazed at how much stuff has been accumulated, packing, signing a lease, moving, and packing some more, then a little moving topped off with some more packing, moving and cleaning.
Now that the dust is settling and we’re getting our possessions arranged in our new home, we are becoming aware we need to make some significant choices. We just sold a house we liked so we could have more flexibility. Why do we want flexibility and what are we going to do with it
I know we made the right choice, but big changes can cause some pretty big fear. I don’t want to fall into the same habits, just doing them in a different place and think I’m making changes. Location doesn’t really matter, the destination matters. Mapping out the destination is going to be hard, but it will help me live a better life for and with my family.
Do hard stuff. Live better.